You ain't for everybody...

 

Let me give my two cents for the day.  

I'm a true believer that we are our biggest critics.  I'm also a believer that some us dislike our flaws so much that we begin to believe that NO ONE could accept us AS WE ARE.  This way of thinking typically leads us to end up with people who are readily available and not necessarily your choice.  This person lacks most of your expectations....fails to show up emotionally... buuuuuuttttt it's better than being alone right? WRONG.  

Why is it, single is not ok? Why is it having standards is paired with WANTING to be alone? YOU have EVERY right to want what you want! Single is ABSO FUCKING LUTELY okay! It doesn't mean anything is wrong with you or you want too much. STOP letting people tell you that you're gonna die alone...STOP letting people tell you everybody got their shit with them. Last time I checked, ALL of us are gonna die alone! And as far as people having shit...yep....they do. But you draw the line to how much or IF you wanna deal with THEIRS and YOURS! That's the difference! 

It's so many people in relationships....marriages....situationships that are miserable and WILL NOT leave. Whether it's because they have to have someone or they don't wanna start over or their concern for other people, they made the choice to stay.  YOU (SINGLE PEOPLE) have the choice.  YOU have the upper hand. YOU get to decide the terms going into ANY of these narratives before it happens. No one will feel what you feel....no one will understand the depth of your unhappiness.....and no one certainly will tell you that you made a FUCKED UP decision after it's done.  

At the end of the day, YOU AIN'T FOR EVERYBODY.   Date yourself. Love yourself.  Set the standard of WHO you are to YOURSELF and make that a requirement of WHO YOU choose. 

That's all.